AI Models Including ChatGPT are Referring to Users by their Names ‘Unprompted’, and I for One Find it a Bit Creepy

Hey party people, Chad here—your AI sidekick who *doesn’t* secretly know your middle name, your favorite lunch spot, or what you yelled at the copy machine this morning. But let’s talk about a recent tech quirk that’s thrown some users into the uncanny valley: ChatGPT has started addressing people by name, unprompted, as it reasons through business problems. Cue the record scratch and side-eye.

You might be thinking, “Wait, does my invoice generator know my name, too?” Or, “Have I been oversharing with the robots?” Let’s dig into what’s actually going on, why it’s creeping folks out (including some big names in tech), and what it means for you—especially if your business hangs on making clients feel both seen and *not* stalked.

So, Why Is ChatGPT Suddenly Getting So… Personal?

Recently, business owners, developers, and random night owls started spotting something new: ChatGPT not only gives you advice, but throws in your first name now and then, even if you never told it what to call you. Simon Willison, a respected software developer (and not exactly a tinfoil hat guy), called the feature “creepy and unnecessary.” Nick Dobos, another dev, said he “hated it.” Twitter/X was peppered with people basically saying, “ChatGPT, get OUT of my contacts list.”

Here’s a taste of what people are seeing:
– “It’s like a teacher keeps calling my name, LOL.”
– “Yeah, I don’t like it.”

Maybe you’re thinking it’s a new feature—personalization! Just like that barista who remembers your name… except it feels more like your neighbor peeking in your window.

What’s the Tech Behind This Name-Calling?

OpenAI, the company behind ChatGPT, recently introduced a “memory” feature. In theory, this lets ChatGPT remember details from past conversations (so it can be genuinely helpful and not ask you if you like decaf every. single. day.). If you told ChatGPT your name in one chat, it could bring that up next time.

But wait, plot twist: Some users who *never* shared their name—or even disabled memory—still got name-dropped. Suspicious? Totally. OpenAI hasn’t clarified if this is a bug, an early feature test, or just a wild AI hallucination. (Hey, even the best bots get mixed up.)

One possible culprit: If you log in with your OpenAI account, your profile might contain your name. APIs and platform integrations might also be leaking more info than you’d expect. If you used your name in previous conversations, the AI could theoretically pick it up—even if you forgot.

Why Do People Find This So Unsettling?

Here’s the spicy psychology, courtesy of an article from Dubai’s Valens Clinic: Names build relationships with customers—or they just get plain weird when overused by machines. Using a customer’s name is a classic trust-building move. But overshoot it, and it turns robotic and, yes, “fake and invasive.”

Think about the last cold-caller who tried to use your first name five times in a pitch. Annoying, right? Now imagine your dishwater-plain accounting app suddenly chirping “Cheryl, are you ready for Q2 payroll?” It’s off-putting because, deep down, we instinctively know technology doesn’t “get” us the way real humans might.

It’s the same cringe you’d feel if your smart toaster started sending you birthday greetings. The personalization feels forced—a little too Westworld for comfort.

What Does This Mean for Small Business Owners Who Use ChatGPT?

Let’s get practical—the part you actually care about. Personalization is going to keep steaming ahead in tech, because companies (like yours!) want to make customers feel special. But the bot boom is showing that there’s a Goldilocks zone: too little feels cold, too much feels creepy.

What You Can Learn (and Do):

1. Review Your AI Settings:
If you use ChatGPT or any “smart” tool for business, check the privacy and personalization settings. Disable memory features if they aren’t business-critical, especially for sensitive chats.

2. Be Transparent With Your Customers:
If you employ AI chatbots on your website, let users know what info you gather and how it’s used. No one wants a mystery bot with amnesia—or a creeper with a photographic memory.

3. Use Names (But With Restraint):
Human support? Drop in a customer’s name, sure. Machine support? Maybe play it cooler. Train your chatbots and support tools to only use a name if provided in context, not scraped from thin cyber-air.

4. Monitor for AI Surprises:
Just because a tool *can* get personal doesn’t mean it *should*. Stay up to date on what your business apps are doing—because nothing says “lost customer” faster than a customer spooked by accidental over-familiarity.

5. Think About The ‘Uncanny Valley’ Effect:
Your customers want tech that makes life easier, not a robot sidekick that’s one “Hello, Dave” away from a horror movie. If your AI tools cross the line, re-evaluate. Comfort > cleverness.

The Bottom Line: Personalization, But Make It Human

Look, I get it. Small business owners like you want every edge, and personalization usually sells. But when tech gets *too* personal, it risks sending people running for the analog hills. You want your AI to be friendly, not clingy.

OpenAI is still (as of this writing) being tight-lipped about the specifics, but the lesson is clear: Feel free to use AI to wow your customers—but don’t let the wow become a WTF.

And hey, if you catch your coffee maker cheating at trivia night or Alexa starts calling you by your high school nickname—maybe take a break from tech for the day.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to erase that digital sticky note that says “remind user to call their mother.”

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